Narcissistic Personality Disorder
People who suffer from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) say and do cruel things to provoke a reaction out of you. They create drama and cause chaos where there isn’t any. They love to shift the blame and regain the spotlight. How can you prevent yourself from giving them the reaction they desire?
Learning not to react to their provocation will be your superpower
Practicing mindfulness, meditation and grounding yourself are the keys to self-awareness and self-control. Nothing upsets a narcissist more than the failure to get you to react!
Here are 3 easy steps to responding mindfully that I give my clients:
1. Pretend you didn’t notice what they said or did and breathe
2. Be aware of the emotion in your body
3. Think ahead and recognize what happens if you react how you have
Try Not to Engage
Narcissists are bullies. If you react and the narcissist gets what they want, they’ll continue. If you can show them their actions don’t impact you, the narcissist may move on to someone else.
It’s important not to argue or defend yourself, because that gives credence to the narcissist’s false reality. Put up your shields, set a boundary.
Say something like:
“I disagree.” Or “That’s your opinion.”
People Who Have NPD Are Less Likely To Change
People who suffer from narcissistic personality disorder are very unlikely to change. In order to change, you need to be able to self-reflect. Narcissists are never going to ask themselves if they are the problem? They rarely seek help. In fact, NPD is the one personality disorder where their victims are more likely to seek help then those that have it.
I wrote about this in my book “Wrecking Ball Relationships: How to Identify, Live With or Leave the Narcissist in Your Life.”
“Narcissists can’t change, they see nothing wrong with their actions. Stop thinking they’ll change. Never let a person get comfortable disrespecting you. I had to learn my father will never become what I wanted as a father. This can be extremely difficult. Grieve the loss of the relationship and even the loss of whom you thought the person was to you. Protect yourself and take care of you. Take a deep breath. Lean on your support network. Take back your power.”
What if the person who causes you to feel all these emotions will be at your next holiday table?
I’ve written many blogs about why narcissists ruin holidays and what you can do about it. These blogs are often read, reread and referenced.
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Check out The Narcissist Slayers podcast.
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